1. Stop blessing people’s hearts.
Christians LOVE to bless! We will bless you, the food, a sneeze and your heart. But sometimes we bless people’s heart when we really mean, “No offense, but…”
Example: Praise the Lord, Roseanne signed up to bring a dish to the church potluck, bless her heart she loves to volunteer, but the girl can’t cook.
Blessing people’s heart and then following it up with an insult…stop it.
2. Stop telling single saints they’ll get married in the next life.
Whenever we hear someone utter a remark such as this it makes us want to break rule No. 1 and bless the mess out of their lil’ ole heart! Nobody is interested in your boo’d-up-behind trying to comfort them by saying that what they don’t have in this life they will get in the next. So what makes you so special? Why did God give you a spouse but the righteous man or woman in the pew next to you has to wait for a zombie apocalypse?
3. Stop claiming that Mormon celebs don’t have to serve missions.
Every time a prominent Mormon is faced with the decision of whether to serve an LDS mission or make a career move, somebody makes a comment like, “The brethren told Donny Osmond he didn’t have to go because making music is his mission.” Or, “My uncle’s, cousin’s, grandma said she heard one of the twelve tell Steve Young that he would help more souls come unto Christ by playing football than serving a mission.”
Recently Jabari Parker said this about his decision to begin his NBA career:
After talking with my family, my local church leaders and a couple close friends I’m at peace with my decision to forego a mission for now and join the NBA…I don’t consider myself an exception to the rule. At this point in my life I know this is the right decision.
Whether we are in the lime-light or not, many Latter-day Saints have a decision to make regarding serving missions. The time, prayer and reflection that a sista in Missoula, Montana puts into making this decision is no less important than that which David Archuleta put into making his choice. Look, God keeps his eye on the sparrow, on the Mo-lebrities and on you and there’s no exception to that.
4. Stop fighting on social media.
There are plenty of reasons for church folk to stop fighting on the internet, but if you tuned into LDS General Conference a few ago Elder Andersen gave us another one. YOU MIGHT END UP THE SUBJECT OF A CONFERENCE TALK! We don’t know if the young lady who emailed a copy of her Facebook feud to Elder Anderson knew that it was going to make a Conference Center debut, but we are sure happy it did. Cause that same day we went through our friend list and deleted err’body that might know somebody who even looked at a church leader from a distance!
The internet is a great place to spread the good news of the gospel, but we all could use a brush up on the social media Golden Rule: “Tweet others the way you want to be tweeted.”
5. Stop saying you’ll pray for someone, but you don’t really do it.
There are 3 ways Christians use prayer under false pretenses. 1) As an automatic response, “I’m so sorry that happened, I’ll be praying for you.” But then we go about our business and we never actually pray for the person or their problem. It was just something to say at the time.
2) Instead of saying no. “This multi-level-marketing opportunity sounds fabulous, but first let me pray on it and I’ll get back to you.” We really have no intention of praying on it, we just want to blame it on God when we tell you no.
3) As fighting words (guilty!). “Oh, ok I told you last Sunday that this was my pew, but you sat here anyway, but that’s alright, I’ma pray for you!” In this case we are going to do the opposite of pray for you, we are actually going to sit in the pew behind you and stare you down during the entire church service.
Prayer is a wonderful opportunity to commune with the Lord and praying for others blesses not only those we pray on behalf of but us as well.
Anything you think should be added to the list of things Mormons or Christians in general should stop doing? What’s on the list that you plan on doing anyway?
Sista Beehive & Sista Laurel